It's one thing to not like one thing but it's another thing to dislike something based on your ignorance. 

It's so easy for people to throw the word 'hate' without actually knowing the subject or object of their hatred.

People should and need to educate themselves first before they pass a judgment or label something.

*sigh*

Okay, so, I have a love-hate relationship with this fandom (this refers to DBSK obviously, or just K-Pop in general). On one hand, it feels nice to have people who share the same interest as you, who understand what you're into and are into the same thing. On the other hand, sometimes it's the only thing you have in common. And so clashes happen.

I mean, clashes occur all the time, but it feels very uncomfortable when they happen in a community that you feel safe in. Safe because you share the same interest and so they won't laugh at you, they won't insult your favourite artists and so on. 

Now, when incidents occur in that community you feel safe in, it's only natural that you feel a certain disposition toward it, such as repulsion. You feel repulsed and apalled to be in that community anymore because you feel like that sense of security is gone. Okay, maybe for the first few times they happen it's still okay. But when they happen all the time, that's when the feeling of repulsion come.

That's why sometimes I like it better to be on the outside, to be the observer and not be inside and finding out the ugly side of this fandom. I mean, losing a fan because he/she doesn't like the artist anymore it's one thing, but to lose a fan because of another fan? That's completely unnecessary and avoidable. 

For me, the main duty of fans is to support the artist. That's it. Not in an extreme way, though.

Since when things become so personal?

They shouldn't be. 

Man, fandom is so complicated. It looks nice from the outside but there are a lot of dark sides to it.